Does it ever seem like you have more adversity in your life than anyone else in this world? As if, everyone around you is having an easier time of things than you are? You begin to feel pitiable for yourself. The question, “Why does this stuff always only happen to ME?” constantly plays on your mind, and, you seem to believe that the entire world is conspiring, to not only be your enemy, but also to take away the last bit of happiness from your soul! Often, our life experiences can be so overwhelming that we become depressed by the burden of stress and anxiety.
Like ‘Henri Noumen’ has rightly said, “The real enemies of our life are the ‘ought’s’ and the ‘ifs.’ They pull us backward into the unalterable past and forward into the unpredictable future. But, real life takes place in the here and now”. To all those who are wondering why I have created this blog; this is not just the story off me, but the story of how unpredictable, complex, and yet eventful life can be. The title of the blog is self-explanatory, and yes I am a ‘Dog Mom’ and my fashion philosophy (today) is, if you’re not covered in dog hair, your life is empty! But this was surely not the case a decade back.
It’s not easy to share one’s life experiences and yet make it interesting enough from anyone other than your own mother. Everyone has a unique perspective on life’s events. Everyone’s point of view differs as everyone has their own preconceived notions. But, Let me tell you this; I am just like one of you’ll and the story of my life and the events aren’t exactly too different from that of many others.
I lived in constant fear about things that will probably never happen. But this fear was derived from the events of my life which made me question and fear anything and everything no matter it is good or bad. Eventually, I have started to believe that fear is not only something that enjoys rent free space in your mind, but also, fear, many a times, is meant to save us from further trouble which our subconscious mind invariably directs us towards when nothing in life seems to be going right. So, instead of worrying about what I cannot control, I have chosen to shift my energy to something that I can create. Sharing my story with the world is not going to be easy, sharing my views and my perspectives on life and its various events will be considered by some as rebellious. But, only after one steps outside their comfort zone, that they begin to change, grow, and transform!
I have learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Life is indeed a learning curve, and, as Buddha has said, as long as you feel pain, you are still alive. Things started to change almost 10 years ago. I was in the middle of a difficult time that was secretly a rebirth. The most unexpected series of events happened, which eventually turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Just when you think everything is lost or falling apart, it may actually be falling into place. The story of me which I will share with you through my blogs.
“The real you is not you, the real you is what is within you. What is behind your joy or your melancholy. What gives you the reason to ponder. What moves or stops you. What makes you you is you.”
― Ernest Agyemang Yeboah